text|Mei's mother (original article, welcome personal ** sharing).
Have you ever heard the story of "Stealing Needles in Hours, Stealing Gold in Big Time"?
In an ancient village, a mother took her son to live in the countryside, because only the son and herself depended on each other, the mother was very fond of the child, one day, the mother found that the son secretly took a needle from the neighbor's house, not only did not accuse the son, but praised the son for doing a good job, doing a great job, later, the son was connived at by the mother's lawlessness, and also stole the gold of a rich family in the city, but this time the son was not so lucky, the rich family reported the son to the county magistrate, On the day of the execution, the son said to ** that he wanted to take one last bite of his mother's milk, but when the mother came up, the son bit off his mother's chest and said viciously to his mother: "All blame you, I have today's end, all blame you, if you stopped me when I was young, how could I become like today"?
This is a typical loving mother who is defeated, when adults find out that the child has done something wrong, they do not stop but encourage, for the child, this "pampering" is like "poison", which will ruin the child's life.
"The child is small and does not understand, you are not allowed to educate my grandson", the grandmother "protecting the calf" was kicked by the grandson
Some time ago, such a ** appeared on the Internet, a little boy because his grandmother did not bring money to buy a transformer for himself, and suddenly splashed and cried at the school gate, grandma watched her grandson rolling on the ground, afraid that the child was cold and wanted to pull up the child, but did not expect that the boy grabbed his grandmother's hair with his hand and pulled it, and kicked his grandmother, and the grandmother did not say a word, let the grandson scold, just as the boy's mother rushed over and "saved" the child's grandmother, It is an education for children lying on the ground
But the grandmother on the side kept saying to her mother: "The child is still young and does not understand things, don't scold", "Why do you scold him for such a young child?" You are not allowed to educate my grandson", after saying that, I wanted to pull my grandson up, but I didn't expect that my grandson not only did not cooperate with him, but also kicked his grandmother's head with his foot, and the grandmother covered her head while blocking the mother who wanted to hit the child, and the scene was very chaotic.
Analyse. It is said that "children from the next generation, relatives from the next generation", it is inevitable for the elderly to spoil their grandchildren, but pampering is okay, doting is often not possible, find a fart kind of boy, is the child who is doted on by the family, beat up the grandmother, and make bad remarks to the mother, such a child is a proper "bear child", and the phenomenon that causes the child is the endless doting of parents, maybe parents have realized that this is doting, but the old people always have to intervene sideways to show their "love" On the child's side, it is also difficult for parents to educate their children.
So, how can old people control their love for their children?
1. When parents educate their children, the elderly should not interfere.
In today's society, the older generation's parenting concept has long been unworkable, but the older generation's parenting concept is always contrary to the parenting concept of parents, which requires the old people to "avoid" themselves, when parents educate their children, the elderly do not interfere, because you are for the good of children, parents are more for the good of children, parents always block parents from educating children, it is easy to educate bear children.
2. When the child asks for something, the elderly should not be easily satisfied.
When the child is young, he has a strong curiosity and desire for many things, and when he sees what he does not have, the child will want to have, if the old man always meets the child's requirements, the child will take it for granted, and the things he wants will be "endless", so the old man must know how to refuse, can not satisfy the child in everything.
Message from Mei's mother:
In fact, it is not that the parenting concept of the elderly is incorrect, but that the current children need more, it is difficult for the elderly to understand the child's ideas, and the parenting concept of parents is suitable for the child's parenting concept now, all for the good of the child, but pampering can, doting is harming the child.
After reading this article, what do you think of this grandmother? Will the elderly in your family also interfere in your education of children? Welcome to leave a message to discuss!
I am @Yumei's mother, in the process of parenting and raising a baby, every mother will encounter some difficult problems to solve, and your problem is the meaning of my existence, so when you encounter something that cannot be solved, you can consult me.
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Compulsory courses for parents
1. Will he be guillotined in the future? --Angry Uichi.
2. This kind of child is basically spoiled, now the family does not educate him, and the society will educate him in the future - the south wind knows my intention and dreams to Xizhou.
3. This is how the bear child was cultivated - Wujingfeng H5
4, this mother-in-law came to her son's house to take revenge, she can pat her ass and leave, can this grandson's son and daughter-in-law still turn around - gray old vegetables.
5, Su Qing is a ** person with an excellent figure, one day she was actually camping outdoors with others, and was discovered by a hunter, the hunter saw that she was beautiful, so he forcibly married her as a brother, and then they began to drink, after drinking, Su Qing fell drunk, the hunter finally couldn't help it, ripped off her wallet, ran [funny] [funny] [funny] [funny] - almost got HD
6. That kid bit **? funny][funny][funny]--hand punching rabbit.
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